Reminiscing about love, Valentines Day, and other loves of life
- Who was the first girl/boy you ever noticed? How old were you?
- Who was your first crush? What attracted you to him/her? Did you ever date?
- Did anyone in particular ever make you blush?
- Do you remember your first kiss? Who was it? Where did you kiss?
- Who was your first date? Where did you go? How did you get there? Did you enjoy the date? Did you go on a date again with that person? How did your parents react?
- Did you ever receive gifts from someone you were dating, maybe flowers, cards, or jewelry?
- Did you ever write love letters to anyone or did you receive any love letters? Who were they from?
- How did you meet your wife/husband? Where did you meet? How long did you date?
- How did your spouse propose? Where did he/she propose? What did you think? Were you surprised? How did you feel? Who was the first person you told about getting engaged? What attracted you to your spouse?
- What advice would you give to someone in love?
- Who has been the greatest love in your life? (Spouse, children, etc…?)
Reminiscing about Valentine’s Day
- What kinds of Valentine’s did you give (homemade, store-bought, etc…)? Did you ever give one to anyone special?
- Did you ever receive a favorite Valentine? Who was it from? Did you keep it?
- Did you ever keep any of your Valentines? Do you still have any today?
- Did you ever receive any special gifts on Valentines Day?
- Did you ever do anything special on Valentines Day? What did you do?
- What are some of your other loves? (Food, animals, sports, people, seasons, places, things, etc…)
For those with Dementia
- Instead of asking questions, you may wish to reminisce with sensory items such as photos of those they love, Valentines Day cards, special jewelry, flowers, things they love (such as a piece of candy, warm blanket, pets, favorite foods, etc…) Let your loved one look at, touch, taste, smell, or listen to something. If feelings of frustration occur, end the activity.
- Fill their day with other things that they love such as walks, sitting on the porch, going for a ride, drinking a favorite beverage, receiving flowers, laughter, or other favorite things.
- Filling their day with things they love, or once loved, may create a “feel-good” atmosphere and may stir some memories.